Maybe it's the nervousness of finding out the gender this afternoon that's putting me in the blogging mood...not sure, but I thought I would go into a subject that has reappeared in my mind. One that I am pretty sensitive about.
I vividly remember how amazed/hurt/shocked I was at some people's reaction that our first baby was going to be a girl. There were people that actually repled "oh...maybe next time" - without even asking me if I'd had a preference. I remember the very pregnant sales girl at Lone Star Baby telling me she "would have just died" if she was having a girl - after finding out what we were having. Of course, not all people reacted this way, but I still found it shocking that anyone could be that ignorant with regards to their rude statement.
Our plan is for two children...regardless of whether this one is a girl or boy. Neither I nor Trenton really care about keeping the "Brockett" name alive - I personally find that idea insanely outdated. I think it's disrespectful to every little girl when I hear these things - are we living in China, for goodness sake? I remember crying for my beautiful little unborn girl - was she not as special as a baby boy? Why can't everyone see that she is?
Maybe I'm being overly sensitive on the subject - likely so - but I couldn't help but mention it...also to give an heads up that if this is a girl, I probably will not be able to be polite to the offending person any longer.
I can't imagine someone even THINKING such a thing, let alone saying it!
ReplyDeleteI remember being so happy when I found out Allyson was a girl that I cried tears of joy.
Can't wait to hear what you're having and celebrate with you either way.
Thank you for your kind comment on my blog today. Scripture knowledge definitely helps with parenting, but I have a hard time figuring out how to share that knowledge without preaching, and a hard time sometimes with not yelling at my kids and undoing everything I'm trying to teach them about love!
I FINALLY found your email with the "new" blog and bookmarked it. The email had slipped down the list before I had a chance to change it in my favorites. SORRY! I can't WAIT to know the gender!!
ReplyDeleteGirls rule! Or at least in my experience I can say they make easier babies. I love my son and all, but he is way more high maintenance than either of his sisters. I mean you don't get a nickname like RB for nothin'. I am totally with you though. All of the Colombians swore Rachel was a boy even after we found out she was a girl. Since Mauricio's sister had two girls at the time they just assumed I wanted and was having a boy. People would literally apologize to me when they found out she was a girl and say "maybe next time". It really ticked me off. Then as soon as we found out we were pregnant with Jake and Ella everyone in SA kept saying "there are two boys in there this time!". I am not sure what the boy hang up was, but it was super annoying. I used to think it was a cultural thing with his family but I guess more widespread :(
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