I had such great intentions with this second baby...being the second child and marrying another second child, we both very much understand how it feels "not to be first." There are never quite as many pictures, your baby books aren't filled out - or even started sometimes...so I thought that I would make a point of treating this second child not identically but with equivalent attention.
So far, not so good...with Kendall I started a special pregnancy blog just for her. I dedicated time at least once a week to blog about the new feelings and reported all the details of the doctor visits and sonograms. With this baby, I already had a family blog in place, so it seemed silly to start another one alone for that purpose. I didn't make the pregnancy public knowledge until very recently (now that it's half over) so I couldn't really mention it on the family blog. Plus, with a baby already running around the house, I can hardly find time to write notes in even that once a week.
I actually read pregnancy books with the first pregnancy - although, I did just go through one not much longer than a year so I may excuse myself on that one. I prepped for Kendall's baby book and her room - even down to her name. As soon as we knew it was a girl, we had her name picked out and within a week later we had her middle name. This poor child may remain unnamed until he/she takes his/her first breath!
There is just isn't time in the day to dream about the second little wonder as much when your first little wonder is toddling around the house, threatening to pull down lamps or fall over toys at any given moment.
Now that we have our 2nd sonogram within reach (Thursday to be exact) I will make a promise to this little seedling that I WILL post its 1st sonogram pictures on the blog within the next 72 hours...it's the least I can do, right?
Being pregnant with #3, I completely understand.
ReplyDeleteDon't be so hard on yourself. Obviously, it doesn't mean that you love this baby any less, and he/she will totally know that! This comes from a second child too.
ReplyDeleteSee you all soon! Hugs and kisses to Kendall B.
Love,
Carissa
Thanks for being so honest. I agree with Carissa. This baby will be loved very much, and that's what matters.
ReplyDeleteI'll look forward to the sono pics!
It's opposite in our house. There are way more pictures/videos of J and E than R. They are also both much more of "mama boy/girl" than R ever was. I think it's b/c I didn't go back to work like I did with R. I did notice that I procrastinated more in getting their nursery set up but I think that was more b/c I didn't know their gender.
ReplyDeleteEvery pregnancy and every baby is different. So of course a first and second and third and fourth baby(s) might be treated differently - but loved equally the same.